Toolbox for Women

The Art of Charm began exclusively to help men excel at business, love, and life. Then we discovered an increasing audience of women who would tune in to the podcast and tell us how helpful we’ve been for them, commonly requesting that we might consider tailoring some episodes toward their needs.
In an effort to provide more balance to the show — and perhaps give our male audience the benefit of a woman’s perspective on this particular subject for a change — we present the AoC Toolbox for Women!
You can check out our traditional AoC Toolbox here for free social skills tips and advice, as well as our Best Of episodes here.
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Kimberly Seltzer is a therapist, image expert, and dating coach based in Los Angeles. She utilizes the unique combined use of therapy, in-field coaching, and styling to help people with their confidence and dating life. Kim has been working with The Art of Charm for the past several years, helping “AoC sisters” level up alongside the rest of the AoC family.

Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear Pt. 2 (Episode 581)


Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear I and II (Episodes 579 and 581)

Gavin de Becker (@gavindebecker) is the the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government. This is the second part of a two-part series (check out part one here). The Cheat Sheet: Why is “no” the end of the discussion for a man, but the beginning of a negotiation for a woman in our culture? Understand why you should be wary of the unsolicited promise. Should we try to join our intuition to our intellect, … Read More


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Linda Carroll | The Narcissistic Continuum (Episode 580)


Linda Carroll | The Narcissistic Continuum (Episode 580)

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) rejoins the show to discuss how we often label the other person in a relationship as “the crazy one” and why we need to examine where we land on the narcissistic continuum. Linda is a therapist and author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. The Cheat Sheet: After a painful breakup, have you ever casually referred to the estranged party as your “crazy ex?” It’s common to chalk up the strains of complex human dynamics as the results of someone else’s mental disorder when we want to avoid taking personal responsibility for them … Read More


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Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear (Episode 579)


Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear I and II (Episodes 579 and 581)

Gavin de Becker (@gavindebecker) is the the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government. This is the first part of a two-part series (check out part two here). The Cheat Sheet: Violence is a reality — if you’re not prepared for its possibility, you’ll be caught off guard by its eventuality. Learn how to hone your sixth sense for danger. Discover how to spot the red flags that signify someone as a likely abuser, … Read More


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Linda Carroll | Lasting Love (Episode 512)


Linda Carroll | Lasting Love (Episode 512)

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda), therapist and author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love, revisits the show to discuss how we can maintain strong romantic relationships for years beyond the initial hormones of early love. The Cheat Sheet: Like seasons, tides, and other natural processes, love goes through very distinct, predictable cycles through which we can weather and thrive over the long term with preparation. Romance is based on science, not superstition. Why does falling in love make us crazy? Because we’re experiencing the Merge — the first of these love cycles — governed by body chemistry (hormones) … Read More


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Duana Welch | The Evolution of Love (Episode 509)


Duana Welch | The Evolution of Love (Episode 509)

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, rejoins us to discuss the evolution of love. The Cheat Sheet: What are some of the core differences between men and women? Learn how men and women have shaped each other psychologically and biologically over the course of human evolution. What do women and men lie about? Why do men tend to be more ambitious than women? How does jealousy differ between women and men? And so much more… Dr. Duana Welch, author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to … Read More


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Kimberly Seltzer | Body Image and Confidence (Episode 507)


Kimberly Seltzer | Body Image and Confidence (Episode 507)

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) returns to the show to share her formula for creating and maintaining a confident body image based on the body we have over the body we might wish we had. This pertains to women and men, so there should be something here for everyone! The Cheat Sheet: What is the definition of confidence, and why are some of us more confident than others? Why is it that so many of us don’t love our bodies? Pinpoint your current body type and the options it gives you. Discover the clothes that flatter your figure and enhance your confidence … Read More


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Kimberly Seltzer | Top 5 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Attract a Man (Episode 503)


Kimberly Seltzer | Top 5 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Attract a Man (Episode 503)

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to share the top five mistakes women make when trying to attract a man. The Cheat Sheet: Is it really true that “there are no good men out there?” Do you feel like the one who never gets approached or, if you do the approaching, you never get the response you’re looking for? Body language, first impressions, messaging, social confidence, and your image play … Read More


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Kimberly Seltzer | How to Set Boundaries (Episode 499)


Kimberly Seltzer | How to Set Boundaries (Episode 499)

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman’s perspective on setting boundaries and cracking the Narcissist Code. The Cheat Sheet: Women often fall into the role of the caretaker — but how can they avoid becoming overcaretakers who habitually attract jerks, narcissists, and man children? Understand what it takes to set boundaries and how this filters out the wrong type of partner. Learn how to crack the … Read More


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Kimberly Seltzer | Flirting for Women (Episode 497)


Kimberly Seltzer | Flirting for Women (Episode 497)

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman’s perspective on flirting. The Cheat Sheet: What is the definition of flirting — and how does it differ between women and men? Learn the top five excuses why women don’t flirt or use femininity in dating and in the work force. Discover three practical ways to flirt that will attract what you want. Use Kimberly’s magic formula for attraction … Read More


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Duana Welch | Love Logically (Episode 492)


Duana Welch | Love Logically (Episode 492)

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, rejoins us to explain how men can enter, exit, and recover from relationships in a way that benefits them…all based on science. “Love at first sight isn’t a decision.” -Dr. Duana Welch The Cheat Sheet: Is “love at first sight” a real thing? Science has the surprising answer. Women have shaped men psychologically over the course of evolutionary history. How do mating strategies differ between men and women? Learn the best predictors for whether your partner will cheat or be faithful. What (specifically) should … Read More


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