Flirting And Attraction

Attract, connect and build desire
In this section, we break down the science and art of flirting effectively and creating attraction. From enhancing your overall persona to mastering the micro-details of creating attraction, these articles will give you new insight into sexual tension, curiosity, desire and conversation.

How to Flirt with a Woman Without Being Sleazy


Guys are often curious to know how to flirt with a woman without coming across as sleazy or creepy.  To help, here are some examples of what a makes a guy creepy when he talks to a woman – and what you can do instead.  Follow these tips on how to talk to women and you’ll be able to make a charming first impression with the women you meet. How to attract women with body language One thing women find creepy in men is when a guy makes eye contact with a woman without ever blinking. To avoid this common … Read More


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Solving the Authenticity Paradox (How To Be Who You Really Are)


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Ah, how to be authentic. Authenticity is one of those qualities that has become so desirable, so sought after, that it has been reduced — just like generosity and gratitude — to a meaningless cliché. And yet everything we teach at The Art of Charm, from storytelling to approaching to confronting limiting beliefs, seems to come back to the core concept of being who you are, which might just be the most difficult skill you can master. Authenticity is as elusive as it is powerful, but so many people are still baffled by the notion of how to be authentic. … Read More


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How to Go From Single to Sexy Dad


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You know what women find sexy? Among other things, great fathers. Jordan recently did a podcast with two of our bootcamp alums — both of them single dads — to discuss how the program made them a better man, a better father and a more attractive prospect to women. It was a fascinating look at single dads and dating. Of course, these three qualities are deeply connected. It can often feel like having a successful family competes with having a successful dating life — there are always trade-offs, for sure — but as we’ve discovered, they can also go hand … Read More


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7 Boring First Date Ideas that Are Guaranteed to Kill Any Chance of A Relationship


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When you’re going on a first date, you’ve got unlimited options for dates, and no shortage of bad first date ideas. What’s most important when you’re heading on a first date is some kind of activity both of you enjoy. I generally advise guys to plan activity dates for two simple reasons: They allow you two to get to know one another without forcing you to talk the entire time, and they create a shared experience from the get-go. A date where the two of you can’t get to know each other isn’t much of a date. On the other … Read More


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Picking Out a Christmas Gift She’ll Love


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Nothing is more stressful than gift shopping during the holidays. Buying a great gift for a girl can be difficult and frustrating, and holiday wish lists are usually full of high-priced, generic items that never quite deliver. More often than not, we’re left choosing between a Victoria’s Secret gift card and another J. Crew scarf as Christmas gets closer and closer. And yet nothing can create more happiness—and bring you closer to the girl in your life—than the perfect gift, given in the perfect way. So how do you go about finding the best Christmas gifts for her? And how … Read More


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Does Smiling Really Make You Less Attractive? A Rebuttal to the Well-Known Psychological Study


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“To our knowledge this is the first research to demonstrate a negative effect of male happiness displays on male attractiveness.” – From Happy Guys Finish Last: The Impact of Emotion Expression on Sexual Attraction Is smiling attractive? In 2011 a sexual attraction study published by psychologists at the University of British Columbia showed that men were perceived as less sexually attractive when they smile.  You may have heard about this study as it made the rounds on sites like Psychology Today, Business Insider, and countless other news outlets.  The findings have caused men all over to say “That’s it! No … Read More


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Should You Ask for Her Number?


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Talking to a girl is difficult enough without having to deal with the complexities of follow-up, and a lot of guys make parallel mistakes when it comes to getting a girl’s phone number: On the one hand, there’s the guy who has a great time with a girl out at a bar or club, but is too timid to get her number. On the other hand, there’s the guy who has a tenuous connection with a woman, but gets her number anyway more or less just to say that he did. Should you get her number? The Art of Charm … Read More


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What is Her Body Language Trying to Tell


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Reading body language gets you inside information into how a woman is feeling.  And this is information can be incredibly useful during the course of the conversation.  It can tell you for example, whether she’s interested and you should move things forward, or she’s disinterested and you should slow things down.  For a basic understanding of how to read a woman’s body language so you can catch these cues, check out the tips below. Where is she facing? A great way to tell how interested a woman is in you is to take a look at where her body is … Read More


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The Winning Attitude: How to Impress Girls


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Basically every guy wants to know how to impress girls. While the answer varies from one girl to another, there are some commonalities that work in general. What’s more, a lot of the stuff that you’re going to do when you go out and try to meet women is just common sense. Here’s a quick intro guide to how you can start cultivating the winning attitude to impressing girls from your friends at The Art of Charm. How to Impress Girls With Confidence Confidence. You know that you need it. The question is how do you get it? But what … Read More


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Flirting Through Text – The Biggest Do’s and Don’ts


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The Biggest Do’s and Don’ts of Flirting through Text A lot of guys aren’t sure how to flirt through text. Fortunately, The Art of Charm has spent many, many hours analyzing and studying the art of flirting through text. How can you flirt via text and make the most out of it? It’s actually a lot easier than you think. But it’s important to know the do’s as well as the don’t when it comes to texting. Here’s a crash course. Do: Flirt Over Text Texting isn’t a good way to get to know someone. It is, however, a great … Read More


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