Empowerment

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Before we can take on the world, we need to feel engaged, prepared and capable. In this section, we explore ways to stay connected to a positive, results-oriented sense of agency as you take on the challenges and opportunities of life.

How to Deal with Crippling Self-Doubts


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Let me know if this sounds recognizable: you sit in the audience, and up on stage is this 6’5” Adonis with immaculate looks, bulking muscles and a 5k suit – telling you that you can do anything if you “just let go of your self-doubts and go after your dreams.” And you sit there, staring at your lap and mumble: “Dude if I looked like you I wouldn’t struggle with this either.” Or you scroll through your Instagram feed with all those motivational messages that tell you to “dance like no-one’s watching!” with a picture of a beach thrown in … Read More


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The Four Steps to Overcome Approach Anxiety


Here’s an experience I recently had with approach anxiety: July 28th, I walk into Chipotle, and there she is. Blonde, tall, with a ponytail extending from her baseball cap, and in full runner’s gear. I just came here to get a burrito, and instead, I’m awestruck by this beautiful woman. And she’s not alone. It appears she’s with a homeless man, and as I secretly observe their interaction, it becomes clear that she’s buying him lunch. She didn’t even order anything for herself. The man is overly grateful, and after thanking her, she leaves the venue. I HAVE to talk … Read More


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How to Say No (and Still Be the Nice Guy)


How to Say No (and Still Be the Nice Guy)

Chase was looking for freelance design work. When a friend introduced him to an event coordinator who needed a good designer, Chase jumped on the phone with his prospective new boss. The way he tells the story, he instantly knew that the situation would be a disaster. The event coordinator was cagey, skeptical, and vague about what what he needed for his upcoming events. He challenged Chase to pitch ideas without giving him much context on his brand and clients. When Chase tried to ask questions, the guy insisted he needed a designer who had enough experience to figure out … Read More


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5 Common Frustrations and How to Handle Them


5 Common Frustrations and How to Handle Them

I was browsing Reddit the other day when I came across a thread that caught my eye. The title was simple: “What frustrates you most about life?” The frustrations people submitted ranged from economic to familial, psychological to political. They were all universal human concerns — problems men and women from all walks of life struggle with every single day. Many of them focus on the same themes we explore in our live residential programs and on the podcast. Several were questions I’ve wrestled with in my own life. As I read, I found myself wanting to respond to each … Read More


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Productive Conflict: How to Disagree Like a Champion


Productive Conflict: How to Disagree Like a Champion

Emily had seen some things. By the time she became Head of Marketing for one of the biggest circuses in the world — I mean a literal circus — she had consulted for Fortune 500 companies, started two media companies, and served as an advisor on everything from television shows to non-profits. She had developed a reputation as a warm, self-assured, whip-smart person who wasn’t afraid of telling her clients the truth, even — and especially — when they didn’t want to hear it. When she got to the circus, she realized just how different her marketing vision was from … Read More


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What Happens When I Compare Myself to “Successful” People


Here are 13 reasons why you shouldn't compare yourself against the success of others. With your unique perspective, can you think of more? Share with us!

What? How? Whatever, man. I was listening to a podcast this morning (Ask Altucher) and the question James Altucher was answering was: “How much is my writing worth?” As the host read aloud the details, it turned out this guy had started writing because that’s what he really wanted to do, and people had liked it more than he expected, and now he was getting paid. My heart stopped. And then the host said the guy wrote “real estate articles.” I calmed down. Ah, he’s not doing the same as me and getting paid for it. It’s different. Good. I … Read More


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Is It Wrong to Outgrow Your Friends?


Learn why outgrowing your friends is a natural part of becoming a better you.

On a recent episode of Fan Mail Friday, I read a letter from Dev, one of our listeners, who’s dealing with a really interesting problem. In college, he became super close with two guys. One became his roommate, and they all joined the same frat, but… I kept working on my personal growth and had been growing out of these relationships because of the way they acted and treated me and treated other people. The way Dev explains it, he “was in an environment where [his] personality, growth, and well-being took hits and [he] didn’t enjoy hanging out with them.” … Read More


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6 Stories That Are Holding You Back


Learn how to rewrite your mental stories to become a more engaged, proactive, and successful person.

Anaïs Nin, echoing some ancient wisdom, wrote that “we don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are.” True story. The idea that the world is just a reflection of our own thoughts, memories, and experiences — our “stories” — is one of the most useful insights into happiness, success, and self-development. Change those thoughts, and the world changes with them. So when we talk about getting better, we have to talk about our stories. The personal narratives that we develop early in life — almost always out of fear — can prevent us from becoming the … Read More


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The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: How to Clean Up Your Life


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It was 7 AM, and I had been up all night tiptoeing around shampoo bottles, socks, hair clips and electronics. I was sorting my belongings, and the piles of things I planned to donate to charity dwarfed the ones that would make it back into my closets and drawers. I would discard my beloved TI-89 calculator from high school, along with a beautiful antique pouf chair that I’d carried home all the way from a store on Polk street to my apartment across town. I got not one but two compliments on it during that walk, and a cab driver … Read More


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Third Place, Part Two: Finding the Right Third Place for You


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Now that you know what a “third place” is, how do you go about finding the right one for you? Just because a place meets all the criteria for being someone’s third place doesn’t make it right for you. Some guys like Coke and other guys like Pepsi. If you’re a Coke guy in a Pepsi spot, you’re never going to get what you need out of a third place. Once you find the right third place for you, you’re going to have to work to make it your own. For the most part, making a third place your own … Read More


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