Building A Connection

Develop immediate trust and rapport
In this section, we explore the art and science of building a connection with the people you meet. Learn to develop organic trust and genuine rapport — the pillars of a deep connection — and apply them to your professional, romantic and platonic relationships.

How to Hold Great Eye Contact


My friends don’t have it easy. They always serve as unknowing test subjects in my social experiments. I write “unknowing,” but I do feel like they suspect at least something. One clue is that their first question always seems to be: “What book are you currently reading?”. Probably a veiled attempt to foresee the experiment they are about to undergo. Meeting me for drinks is like Google’s “I’m feeling lucky” button. Did I just read up on comedy, or on vulnerability? Well, let me tell you, you’re looking at two VERY different evenings here. In preparation for this article, I … Read More


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Why Hitting a Home Run Isn’t Always Your Best Move


Why Hitting a Home Run Isn't Always Your Best Move

Three strikes and you’re out. Keep waiting for the perfect pitch to hit a home run every time and you might win a few cheers, but you won’t win the game. Here’s how to play at your best. [Photo by CNU Sports] When the ball comes over home plate, a man’s first reaction is to try and hit it out of the park. If we keep waiting for the perfect pitch to hit the ball out of the park every time, we might win a few cheers, but we won’t win the game. Even the 1927 New York Yankees team … Read More


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Harville Hendrix | Getting The Love You Want (Episode 362)


Harville Hendrix, relationship expert and author of Getting The Love You Want, joins us for a relationship-centered chat on episode 362 of The Art of Charm.

You choose your partners for a reason. “The bottom line for great relationships is you have to know how to deal with differences.” -Harville Hendrix The Cheat Sheet: What is zero negativity and how do you use it in a relationship? Imago: what is it and why should you bother to care? Only 10% of the married population is in a healthy, happy marriage: true or false? Why arranged marriages have historically worked better than love matches. What roles do safety and curiosity play in a healthy relationship? And so much more… Have you ever wondered why you choose the partners … Read More


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Passion in Relationships | Is Your Girlfriend Getting Bored With You?


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Passion in relationships is a tricky subject. When you’ve got a girlfriend you really dig you might be afraid that she’s getting bored with you. And honestly, you wouldn’t be the first guy that’s happened to. Knowing the signs that your girlfriend is getting bored with you can make all the difference in the world between keeping your relationship going and a painful breakup. Once you recognize the signs, you can begin combatting them. First Sign She’s Bored: The Sex Goes This is a given. While sex isn’t everything and has its ups and downs, if the two are you … Read More


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Dating Chemistry | How to Determine if She’s a Good Match for You


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Sometimes you can feel the dating chemistry right away: The two of you click. Other times it can be hard to tell if things are happening the way you want them to. So when you’re in doubt, how do you know if she’s a good fit for you? This becomes increasingly important the more dates you go on. Here’s the quick guide from The Art of Charm on how you know if you should press things forward or move on.   Sign #1: Shared Sense of Humor Sense of humor says a lot about who we are as people. So … Read More


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It’s Not Always What You Say, But How You Say It


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“It’s not what you say, but how you say it.” How many times have you heard that gem? There’s a great deal of truth to it, especially when we’re discussing what to say to women. The actual words that you use have very little to do with what you’re communicating. What’s far more important is your tone of voice and your body language. So how do you get that working for you instead of against you? The Art of Charm is here to help.   How Important Is Your Tone of Voice? When figuring out what to say to women, … Read More


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Should You Let Her Do All the Talking?


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You don’t need a college degree to talk to women, but when you’re first getting to know a woman, it can be difficult to determine how much time you should spend talking to her and how much time you should spend listening.  If you are unsure about how much talking you need to do in these situations, the points below will help point you in the right direction. Aim for 50/50 As a general rule you want to aim for a 50/50 split when you talk with women.  Look to talk about half the time and let her talk the … Read More


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Getting out of the Friend Zone


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Most guys know the pain of the “friend-zone” all too well. But once you know how to start dating a friend you won’t have to suffer that pain any longer. To learn how to turn those platonic friendships into something more intimate, check out the following tips on how to start dating a friend. Plant the seed One reason a guy might get stuck in the “friend zone” is because the girl simply has no clue he’s interested in her. And if he’s the type of guy who doesn’t date much or talk openly about his dating life, she may … Read More


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How to Attract Younger Women


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For every guy that we meet at The Art of Charm who wants to meet older women, there’s a guy who wants to know how to attract younger women. And why not? They say that girls mature faster than guys. What’s more, research shows that tons of younger women prefer older guys anyway. It’s a perfect match, like peanut butter and jelly. So we decided to put together a quick little article with some basic tips on how you can go about attracting younger women. It’s a lot easier than you might think. Act Your Age If you want to … Read More


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How to Flirt Online


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Do you have trouble flirting with girls out at the bars and clubs? A lot of guys do. But even more common is guys who have trouble flirting when they’re online. Especially as online dating is on the rise, learning how to flirt online with the best of them is a skill every man needs in the digital age. Here are some basic tips to help you level up your online game. Make a Joke About Her Profile One way that you can start out learning how to flirt online is making a playful joke about something in her profile. … Read More


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