Art of Personal Development

How to Deal with Crippling Self-Doubts


girl sitting on bed, curled up from sadness

Let me know if this sounds recognizable: you sit in the audience, and up on stage is this 6’5” Adonis with immaculate looks, bulking muscles and a 5k suit – telling you that you can do anything if you “just let go of your self-doubts and go after your dreams.” And you sit there, staring at your lap and mumble: “Dude if I looked like you I wouldn’t struggle with this either.” Or you scroll through your Instagram feed with all those motivational messages that tell you to “dance like no-one’s watching!” with a picture of a beach thrown in … Read More


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The Four Steps to Overcome Approach Anxiety


Here’s an experience I recently had with approach anxiety: July 28th, I walk into Chipotle, and there she is. Blonde, tall, with a ponytail extending from her baseball cap, and in full runner’s gear. I just came here to get a burrito, and instead, I’m awestruck by this beautiful woman. And she’s not alone. It appears she’s with a homeless man, and as I secretly observe their interaction, it becomes clear that she’s buying him lunch. She didn’t even order anything for herself. The man is overly grateful, and after thanking her, she leaves the venue. I HAVE to talk … Read More


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How to Build a Friend Circle From Scratch – Part 1


Arriving at the AoC house

For many years now I’ve been coaching people struggling with low self-esteem and social anxiety that were lacking a good friend circle. AJ and Johnny got word of me through a mutual friend. Long story short, they want me to come to Los Angeles, so I can coach for The Art of Charm. “Sure,” I said. And so I jumped on a plane, headed towards Hollywood. *** 3 PM, June 20th, 2018 “I’ve just landed. After sitting in my seat for 12 hours, I’m dying to get my feet moving again. It’s my first time on American soil, and as … Read More


in Life Hacks, Making Friends, Networking

Taking Risks in Life: Saying YES to New Opportunities


Taking Risks in Life: Saying YES to New Opportunities

In 2018, you may be just one word away from epic adventures: when you start taking risks in life by saying “yes” to new opportunities. Everyone’s seen the meme that answers the question “Why are people afraid of change?” It’s a calculated risk any time we leave our comfort zone. Working on building your social circle and attracting more high-quality people into your life? There’s no challenge more rewarding than practicing saying yes. This goes double for introverts! Anyone Can Say Yes — But Will You Follow Through? We’ve all had that moment of regret, wondering why on earth we … Read More


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How to Develop Social Skills to Attract and Keep High-Value People


How to Develop Social Skills to Attract and Keep High-Value People

It’s never too late to learn new methods to help develop social skills. Today we share some of our favorites. In the last few weeks, we’ve talked about low-value people, value vampires, and today we want to talk about why you should continue to develop social skills. The right skills will help you build a social circle of high-value people. We want you to know how to attract these people into your life and how to keep them there. Time for a Friend Audit The first thing you have to do is make time for these people. You can’t bring … Read More


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Time Management Training — Our Best Tips and Tricks


Time Management Training -- Our Best Tips and Tricks

Without proper time management training, you’ll have a much harder time doing the things you want to do while still accomplishing all you need to accomplish. In this post, we want to share some of our best tips and tricks for time management training. We know how it is to be so busy you feel like you can’t get everything done. In the end, it really does come down to learning how to manage your time better. The First Thing You Must Realize About Managing Time The first thing you need to understand: you will do the things you want … Read More


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Seven Surprising Reasons to Be Nice at Work


Seven Surprising Reasons to Be Nice at Work

If you Google “being nice at work,” you’ll find no shortage of articles bemoaning the hidden costs of being kind in your career. “9 Ways Being Nice At Work Is Holding You Back,” warns one article. “11 Ways To Stop Being Too Nice At Work & Start Being Assertive,” offers another. “It’s Time to Stop Being So Nice at Work,” concludes a third, which pretty much assumes that we’ve all agreed that niceness is high on our list of professional mistakes. Which isn’t entirely misguided. It is true that being nice isn’t the answer to every situation at work, just … Read More


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Improve Your Social Health and Increase the Value of Your Social Circle


Improve Your Social Health and Increase the Value of Your Social Circle

How can you improve your social health if your social circle needs more high-value members? How can you improve your social health in your current social circle? In our last post we discussed “value vampires,” those people who suck away attention from you and others. These value vampires can hold you back and bring negativity into your space. In this post we’re going to talk about how to start rebuilding a high-value social circle after you’ve dealt with those value vampires. A lot of people struggle when it comes to meeting new people — especially with how to sort out … Read More


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What Are Social Skills? A Value Vampire Has No Clue.


What Are Social Skills? A Value Vampire Has No Clue.

What Are Social Skills? Don’t Let Value Vampires Suck the Goodness out of Your Life. From the “what are social skills” series: understanding value can help you spot value vampires. Are you a value vampire? Or do you let value vampires feed on you? Before you answer that, let’s take a minute to recap the concept of value. We usually associate value with the three “A’s:” attention, approval, and acceptance. When you offer these things to people, that gives them value. The body releases dopamine, and the person is fueled with positive feelings. It’s almost addictive. Once you feel that … Read More


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Six Rules for a Memorable First Meeting


Six Rules for a Memorable First Meeting

So you’ve made yourself get out there and go to some networking meetings. Good for you! But are you concerned because you didn’t walk away with a meeting already set up? The good news is you stepped out of your comfort zone and made contacts; the bad news is that you may not know what to do next. How do you reach out to set up that first meeting? Here are six simple rules to make sure your first encounters are meetings your network will attend and remember. Rule Number One The first thing to remember is this: don’t push … Read More


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