Art of Dating

How to Hold Great Eye Contact


My friends don’t have it easy. They always serve as unknowing test subjects in my social experiments. I write “unknowing,” but I do feel like they suspect at least something. One clue is that their first question always seems to be: “What book are you currently reading?”. Probably a veiled attempt to foresee the experiment they are about to undergo. Meeting me for drinks is like Google’s “I’m feeling lucky” button. Did I just read up on comedy, or on vulnerability? Well, let me tell you, you’re looking at two VERY different evenings here. In preparation for this article, I … Read More


in Art of Dating, Building A Connection, Confidence

How to Flirt with a Woman Without Being Sleazy


Guys are often curious to know how to flirt with a woman without coming across as sleazy or creepy.  To help, here are some examples of what a makes a guy creepy when he talks to a woman – and what you can do instead.  Follow these tips on how to talk to women and you’ll be able to make a charming first impression with the women you meet. How to attract women with body language One thing women find creepy in men is when a guy makes eye contact with a woman without ever blinking. To avoid this common … Read More


in Flirting And Attraction

Building Confidence — The Skyline of Life


Building Confidence -- The Skyline of Life

Confidence, like a building, takes a lot of effort to develop, regular maintenance to keep it in good shape, but just a single blow to destroy it. Here’s how to ensure you’re nurturing — and not abandoning — your confidence to the elements. [Photo by gags9999] It can take months, years, even decades to build a superstructure or sky rise building. But it can take just minutes to knock it down. Confidence is a lot like a building. It takes a lot of effort to develop, regular maintenance to keep it in good shape, but just a single blow to … Read More


in Confidence, Self Mastery

Why Hitting a Home Run Isn’t Always Your Best Move


Why Hitting a Home Run Isn't Always Your Best Move

Three strikes and you’re out. Keep waiting for the perfect pitch to hit a home run every time and you might win a few cheers, but you won’t win the game. Here’s how to play at your best. [Photo by CNU Sports] When the ball comes over home plate, a man’s first reaction is to try and hit it out of the park. If we keep waiting for the perfect pitch to hit the ball out of the park every time, we might win a few cheers, but we won’t win the game. Even the 1927 New York Yankees team … Read More


in Building A Connection, Networking

How to Restore Your Confidence After It Takes A Hit


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If you’re working hard and taking chances in life, here’s an uncomfortable truth: You will fail from time to time, and certainly more than the average person. The cost of confronting your limitations, of course, is your sense of confidence, the one quality we need to succeed and risk losing when we fail. Understanding how to restore confidence when it dips is an essential skill, and it depends on three core components: attitude, knowledge and experience. By working within those three domains, we can learn to rebuild and sustain confidence through its natural ebbs and flow. Adopting the powerful principle … Read More


in Art of Dating, Confidence

Birdman, Self-Doubt, and the Fear of Criticism


Birdman, Self-Doubt, and the Fear of Criticism

In this writer’s estimation, anyone who has ever attempted to make/do/create something (isn’t that all of us?) should be able to take away something from the movie Birdman.[Image by Fox Searchlight] Author’s note: There are minor Birdman spoilers in here. If you haven’t seen the film yet, reading this won’t necessarily ruin it for you, but some of this piece might not make as much sense. (Also, what are you waiting for?) I loved Birdman — both times I watched it, and likely when I’ll see it again. As a viewer, I enjoyed the incredible single-take cinematography, powerful performances, and … Read More


in Confidence

Meeting Chelsea: How I Approached One of My Heroes on the Street


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She had already passed me on the street by the time I realized who she was. “Gotta go,” I blurted to my friend, and ended the call. It was a little brusque, but I knew she’d understand later. “Excuse me,” I called out, loudly enough to grab her attention but gently enough to not come across as some aggro dude hollering at her on the sidewalk. She stopped and turned her head. “Hey,” I offered. “Sorry to bother you, but did you tell a story at John’s dinner party a few nights back about being on the boat ride from … Read More


in Approaching A Woman

How to Break Up Without Being a Jerk


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One of the most common scenarios I encounter as a coach is working with guys who are in mediocre relationships. They’re not thrilled about their significant others, yet they stay with them, month after month, year after year. Why? Sometimes it’s a shared history that keeps them together. In other cases, it’s the fear of being alone. (On the Periodic Table of Reasons for Being With a Girl, that fear might be the most common element in the romantic universe. There is no worse reason for staying in a relationship than your fear of not being in one at all.) … Read More


in Break-Ups & Divorce

8 Valentine’s Dates That Won’t Make You Look Like the Most Boring Man Alive


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Let’s face it: Most Valentine’s Day dates are boring. Which is not to say that you’re boring. It’s just that most of the dates guys take girls on for Valentine’s Day are of the “been there, done that” variety. It doesn’t matter how nice the restaurant is or how great the cinema is: It’s still “dinner and a movie.” Been there. Done that. Yet another manufactured holiday. If you’re taking your lady friend out for Valentine’s Day, let’s aim a little higher this year, with some fresh Valentine’s date ideas. Not just to impress her, but to make sure tha … Read More


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