Let’s imagine a situation we are all familiar with… You’ve made plans to meet a friend for lunch and you’re sitting at the table waiting. Your stomach starts to grumble. He was supposed to be here ten minutes ago! “That’s okay,” you think to yourself, “he probably hit traffic or got tied up at work.” Another ten minutes go by. … Read More
Usually, before you even get into self-development, you’re inspired to make a change because of some external force. You’ve gone through a breakup, missed promotion at work, or moved to a new town and can’t make any friends. You’ve seen your life play out on repeat. The same actions, leading to the same results and — unfortunately, those results aren’t … Read More
Consider this, you’ve been invited to an acquaintance’s party where you know very few people. You end up arriving to a horde of strangers. You don’t know anyone there. Or maybe it’s a work event with all the top executives you report to and you are the brand new person on the team. It might even be that you find … Read More
Are you willing to change your point of view? It’s a simple question, but it can take people a lifetime to consider. My work as a systems thinker has led me to explore a variety of methodologies, approaches, and frameworks geared at helping those considering this question to arrive at an answer. Through this work, I’ve found no approach has … Read More
It’s human nature to want to connect, yet many people struggle forming strong bonds. We put ourselves out there, break the ice, and start conversations, but then what? How can we take these conversations to the next level and build real connection? Instant connection? Many people think that connection happens rapidly and you need to instantly form a bond with … Read More
According to Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary psychology at Oxford University, the average human can maintain relationships with up to around 150 people. Sure this number varies for each person, but it’s made us think about the relationships we value. Wanting to understand the three most important relationships in our lives – romantic relationships, relationships at work and relationships … Read More
Ever been in a conversation that dies instantly? We all have… It usually goes something like this… Joe: Hey, I’m Joe Jane: Nice to meet you, I’m Jane Joe: Pleasure to meet you Jane, so what do you do? Jane: I’m a ______ (insert awesome occupation) Joe: Interesting. Do you like it? Jane: Yes, it’s great! It’s what I … Read More
After spending a month learning about happiness – and the important role that relationships play in this happiness – we wanted to dig deeper. What do we mean by relationships? What are the secrets to building healthy relationships? What’s the science behind how relationships contribute to our personal happiness and well-being? Here are our biggest learnings on the power of … Read More
If you’re a single guy, you’ve probably come to a bunch of conclusions about online dating. Women are very picky. Women are very flaky. Women only care about looks, height, and money. Women regularly lie about their age, weight and body type. The solution to all of these problems is dating apps – reach out to dozens of attractive women … Read More
When we use the word value it means something very specific to us here at AOC. For us, value is how we derive attention, approval, and acceptance, which humans need to feel good about themselves. You can think of it as oxygen for the human soul. Think about it; ever since the time you were born you have devised … Read More