Let me know if this sounds recognizable: you sit in the audience, and up on stage is this 6’5” Adonis with immaculate looks, bulking muscles and a 5k suit – telling you that you can do anything if you “just let go of your self-doubts and go after your dreams.” And you sit there, staring at your lap and mumble: “Dude if I looked like you I wouldn’t struggle with this either.” Or you scroll through your Instagram feed with all those motivational messages that tell you to “dance like no-one’s watching!” with a picture of a beach thrown in … Read More
How to Deal with Crippling Self-Doubts
The Four Steps to Overcome Approach Anxiety
Here’s an experience I recently had with approach anxiety: July 28th, I walk into Chipotle, and there she is. Blonde, tall, with a ponytail extending from her baseball cap, and in full runner’s gear. I just came here to get a burrito, and instead, I’m awestruck by this beautiful woman. And she’s not alone. It appears she’s with a homeless man, and as I secretly observe their interaction, it becomes clear that she’s buying him lunch. She didn’t even order anything for herself. The man is overly grateful, and after thanking her, she leaves the venue. I HAVE to talk … Read More
in Art of Personal Development, Empowerment, Self Mastery
How to Hold Great Eye Contact
My friends don’t have it easy. They always serve as unknowing test subjects in my social experiments. I write “unknowing,” but I do feel like they suspect at least something. One clue is that their first question always seems to be: “What book are you currently reading?”. Probably a veiled attempt to foresee the experiment they are about to undergo. Meeting me for drinks is like Google’s “I’m feeling lucky” button. Did I just read up on comedy, or on vulnerability? Well, let me tell you, you’re looking at two VERY different evenings here. In preparation for this article, I … Read More
in Art of Dating, Building A Connection, Confidence
How to Flirt with a Woman Without Being Sleazy
Guys are often curious to know how to flirt with a woman without coming across as sleazy or creepy. To help, here are some examples of what a makes a guy creepy when he talks to a woman – and what you can do instead. Follow these tips on how to talk to women and you’ll be able to make a charming first impression with the women you meet. How to attract women with body language One thing women find creepy in men is when a guy makes eye contact with a woman without ever blinking. To avoid this common … Read More
in Flirting And Attraction
How to Build a Friend Circle From Scratch – Part 1
For many years now I’ve been coaching people struggling with low self-esteem and social anxiety that were lacking a good friend circle. AJ and Johnny got word of me through a mutual friend. Long story short, they want me to come to Los Angeles, so I can coach for The Art of Charm. “Sure,” I said. And so I jumped on a plane, headed towards Hollywood. *** 3 PM, June 20th, 2018 “I’ve just landed. After sitting in my seat for 12 hours, I’m dying to get my feet moving again. It’s my first time on American soil, and as … Read More
in Life Hacks, Making Friends, Networking
Five Tips on How to Set Boundaries
I’ve learned that difficult situations can be handled peacefully and gracefully by implementing one simple practice: setting boundaries. Here now is my five-step plan on how to set effective boundaries. Let the liberation from being walked all over begin now! Read More
in Marriage & Relationships
Taking Risks in Life: Saying YES to New Opportunities
In 2018, you may be just one word away from epic adventures: when you start taking risks in life by saying “yes” to new opportunities. Everyone’s seen the meme that answers the question “Why are people afraid of change?” It’s a calculated risk any time we leave our comfort zone. Working on building your social circle and attracting more high-quality people into your life? There’s no challenge more rewarding than practicing saying yes. This goes double for introverts! Anyone Can Say Yes — But Will You Follow Through? We’ve all had that moment of regret, wondering why on earth we … Read More
in Art of Personal Development
How to Develop Social Skills to Attract and Keep High-Value People
It’s never too late to learn new methods to help develop social skills. Today we share some of our favorites. In the last few weeks, we’ve talked about low-value people, value vampires, and today we want to talk about why you should continue to develop social skills. The right skills will help you build a social circle of high-value people. We want you to know how to attract these people into your life and how to keep them there. Time for a Friend Audit The first thing you have to do is make time for these people. You can’t bring … Read More
in Art of Personal Development
Time Management Training — Our Best Tips and Tricks
Without proper time management training, you’ll have a much harder time doing the things you want to do while still accomplishing all you need to accomplish. In this post, we want to share some of our best tips and tricks for time management training. We know how it is to be so busy you feel like you can’t get everything done. In the end, it really does come down to learning how to manage your time better. The First Thing You Must Realize About Managing Time The first thing you need to understand: you will do the things you want … Read More
in Art of Personal Development
Seven Surprising Reasons to Be Nice at Work
If you Google “being nice at work,” you’ll find no shortage of articles bemoaning the hidden costs of being kind in your career. “9 Ways Being Nice At Work Is Holding You Back,” warns one article. “11 Ways To Stop Being Too Nice At Work & Start Being Assertive,” offers another. “It’s Time to Stop Being So Nice at Work,” concludes a third, which pretty much assumes that we’ve all agreed that niceness is high on our list of professional mistakes. Which isn’t entirely misguided. It is true that being nice isn’t the answer to every situation at work, just … Read More
in Art of Business, Art of Personal Development