AJ Harbinger

“Your network is your net worth”

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AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.

Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

The Art of Charm Podcast would go on to become one of the largest and most successful lifestyle podcasts in the world. What started out as two graduate students conversing and laughing in a basement in Ann Arbor has turned into a top rated podcast and highly sought after coaching business. After seeing an opportunity to grow The Art of Charm, AJ made the difficult decision to leave the laboratory and graduate school and take a risky leap into the world of entrepreneurship.

Today, AJ and his co-founders teach people from all over the world how to create, develop, and maintain top business and personal relationships. It is often said that the best learning can be found in teaching a subject – for AJ, it was in coaching others towards success, that he was able to rekindle his own confidence and passion. The love of science and the desire to understand relationships at an elemental level had stopped being separate paths and interests for AJ and now merged into a single focus.

Men have traveled from over 50 countries to attend Bootcamp. Each week at their headquarters in Los Angeles these men discover how to be the best version of themselves.  AJ’s mantra is “your network is your net worth” — and this value is what he develops in each of his students.

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The Four Components of a First impression


We’ve all heard the saying you don’t get a second chance to make a good first impression. But whether we’re at a bar, a baseball game, or in the boardroom, most of us probably don’t know how to take advantage of that first and only opportunity to become a positive blip on someone’s radar. And trust me, that strong first … Read More


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The Art of Negotiation: How to Make Win-Win Deals


Several years ago, we decided to have our website redone. We went about it like real pros – or so we thought. But instead, it turned into a real mess.  Not because of the design company we hired to set it up (they were great). And not because we were a particularly difficult client (ok, maybe a little). But because … Read More


in Art of Business

How to 10x Your Decision-Making Skills


Years ago, I had to make a decision: Continue my Ph.D., or pursue my desire to help people develop their social skills. One option would lead to a stable and secure life, and it would be in a job I didn’t enjoy. The other path was filled with uncertainty, but I’d be doing something I was passionate about.  Since you … Read More


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Best Buds Need Boundaries


two friends sitting together talking

Let’s imagine a situation we are all familiar with… You’ve made plans to meet a friend for lunch and you’re sitting at the table waiting. Your stomach starts to grumble. He was supposed to be here ten minutes ago! “That’s okay,” you think to yourself, “he probably hit traffic or got tied up at work.”  Another ten minutes go by. … Read More


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How to Know When It’s Time for Change & Two Tips for Transformation


A neon sign of the word "Change"

Usually, before you even get into self-development, you’re inspired to make a change because of some external force. You’ve gone through a breakup, missed promotion at work, or moved to a new town and can’t make any friends. You’ve seen your life play out on repeat. The same actions, leading to the same results and — unfortunately, those results aren’t … Read More


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Talk to Anyone and Build Connections


It’s human nature to want to connect, yet many people struggle forming strong bonds. We put ourselves out there, break the ice, and start conversations, but then what? How can we take these conversations to the next level and build real connection? Instant connection? Many people think that connection happens rapidly and you need to instantly form a bond with … Read More


in Art of Personal Development, Making Friends

Strengthening The Three Most Important Relationships in Our Lives


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According to Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary psychology at Oxford University, the average human can maintain relationships with up to around 150 people. Sure this number varies for each person, but it’s made us think about the relationships we value. 

Wanting to understand the three most important relationships in our lives – romantic relationships, relationships at work and relationships … Read More


in Art of Personal Development, Empowerment

Signs of a Toxic Person and How to Cut Those Toxic People out of Your Life


There’s an old myth that frogs will pull down other frogs trying to escape a pot of boiling water. That’s likely the stuff of folklore, but the dynamic is real: In everyone’s life, there will always be people who will resist, threaten and sabotage the possibility of self-improvement. These are some of the signs of a toxic person. This general … Read More


in Empowerment, Self Mastery