Let me ask you a question: Do you go to the gym? Now let me ask you another question: Are you meeting women there? Why not? The gym can be a great place for you to meet women who share your commitment to fitness. There are some things to keep in mind when thinking about how to meet women at the gym. However, if you go into things with the right mindset, you’ll find that you have a great new place for how to meet women.
Timing Is Everything
No matter how great you are, chances are good that she doesn’t want you hitting her up while she’s in the middle of some weighted squats. On the other hand, you can feel free to try and meet women who are on a treadmill next to you at any time. Timing is everything when it comes to meeting women at the gym. If you pick the wrong time to approach, you can blow yourself out of the water. Take her time into consideration before you start talking to her.
So Is Brevity
Brevity is also key. Remember, that the gym is a place that a woman is going to get something done. It’s not that you can’t brighten her day by talking to her: Rather, it’s that no matter how much you’re brightening her day, she’s still there to get stuff done. So the thing to do is to get in, chat her up, get the number and get out of there. You guys will have plenty of time for getting to know each other when you go on a date.
How to Chat Her Up
So how do you chat her up? Starting with something fun, light and playful can help, but don’t feel like you have to force it. You can always start with something more straightforward and then transition to a more light and playful form of banter after you two start talking. Above all, don’t think that you have to absolutely crush it with a “pickup line.” Instead, think of it in terms of getting her interested enough to have a quick conversation with you. A couple minutes is all you need to chat her up, create a little bit of interest and get her number.
Aiming for the Number
It’s always good to have a goal in mind when it comes to how to meet women. In this case, when you’re meeting a woman at the gym, you want to get her number so that you two can get to know each other better in a place more conducive to socializing. Chat and banter a little bit. Flirt some. When the conversation reaches a crest, tell her that you need her number so that the two of you can get together some time. If you have your phone on you, hand it to her with the screen ready for her to input her number. Text her right away so that she has your number with something light and playful like “super buff guy from the gym.” If you’re planning on meeting more than one woman at the gym (and you should be) put some notes in your phone so that you remember who she is.
Meeting women at the gym doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, meeting women anywhere shouldn’t be hard.
AJ Harbinger - author of 1164 posts on The Art of Charm
AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality.
Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.
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