How Do You Get a Girl's Number?

How do you get a girl’s number? If you’re asking yourself this, you probably aren’t having the best luck closing. That’s OK. A lot of guys who have otherwise solid game can really stumble when the time comes to get her number. Fortunately, The Art of Charm has put together a foolproof system for getting her number that’s going to work just about every time.

Wait for a High Point

A big mistake that a lot of men make when it comes time to close is that they ask for her number just as they’re getting ready to leave. Instead, ask for a number at a high point during the conversation. This allows you two to keep talking a bit after you get her number, which cements the emotional connection as well as shows her that you’re interested in more than just saying that you got her number.

Tell Her You Need Her Number

Another big mistake guys make in how do you get a girl’s number? Asking for the number. Rather than asking, just tell her that you need her number so that the two of you can get together some time. Telling her that you need her number is a much stronger and more confident move than simply asking. You will find that your batting average when it comes to getting phone numbers will increase dramatically when you start using this power play to your advantage.

Hand Her Your Phone

As you tell her that you need her number so that the two of you can get together some time, hand it to her. Don’t hesitate when you do it. Put your phone in her personal space “bubble” and hand it to her. Make sure the phone is on the screen where she enters her number, making it as easy as possible for her to enter it.

A quick note here: A lot of what we’re doing here is trying to make it easier for her to say “yes.” Even minor obstacles can stand in the way of you getting the number that you’ve been after all night. Remove them.

Text Her Immediately

One of the great things about texting is that the whole awkward “when do I call her” thing is largely in the past. Rather than waiting to call — or even text — The Art of Charm recommends that you send her a quick, playful text immediately after you get her number. Something like “I’m the super sexy guy you just met” or “This is AJ, the guy with the irresistible blue eyes” both lets her know whose number she has and reminds her that you two had some rapport together.

BONUS: Rattle Off Date Ideas

When she’s inputting her number into your phone, use that time as an opportunity to rattle off some killer date ideas; Things that the two of you have previously talked about that you’d love to do together. Then, when you call or text her for the first real conversation, you can bring these things up again to bring her mind back to what you have in common.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1053 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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