5 Ways to Attract Girls at a Party

If you want to attract girls at a party, it’s a lot easier than you think. Like everything else that has to do with attraction, this is basically just a series of behaviors that any man can learn. So the next time that you go out to a party, here are five ways to attract girls once you get there.

Proper Placement

One of the most basic ways to attract girls is to pick a high-traffic area of the party. That way there are tons of girls coming up to you just as a natural consequence of where you’re standing. Near the keg is a great place, but basically anywhere that lots of women are going is the place where you want to be.

Have Fun

One of the most attractive things to women is being a guy who knows how to have a good time. When you show up to a party, have a great smile and start being outrageous right off the bat. Smile, joke around, be crazy. Don’t worry about what other people think of you. The attitude that you want to have is one of endless self-amusement. As long as you’re having a killer time, what do you care about what other people think?

Banter With Lots of People

One great way to show really high social value is to banter with lots of people. Not only does this have you feeling better and more comfortable with bantering, it also has every girl at the party wondering who that awesome guy is that everyone seems to want to talk to. There are few better ways to attract girls before she even has your attention than bantering with everyone in the room.

Holding Court

Holding court is what we call it when you establish rapport with more than one person at a time. The best way to do this is through telling an amusing story. It’s OK to have some on deck, but a conversational situation provides the best entree to hold court. Basically, you tell a story that lets people know who you are, but also amuses and entertains them at the same time. This is a serious display of high social value and confidence. If you’re not naturally outgoing, it’s something that you need to master so that you can create rapport with multiple people at once.

Approach Confidently

When you do see a woman that you want to chat up, you need to approach her in the most confident manner possible. This means talking to her immediately, but also applying all of the skills that you’ve learned and committing fully to the interaction.

AJ Harbinger - author of 1053 posts on The Art of Charm

AJ Harbinger is one of the world’s top relationship development experts. His company, The Art of Charm, is a leading training facility for top performers that want to overcome social anxiety, develop social capital and build relationships of the highest quality. Raised by a single father, AJ felt a strong desire to learn about relationships and the elements that make them successful. However, this interest went largely untapped for many years. Following the path set out for him by his family, AJ studied biology in college and went on to pursue a Ph.D. in Cancer Biology at the University of Michigan. It was at this time that he began to feel immense pressure from the cancer lab he worked in and began to explore other outlets for expression. It was at this point that The Art of Charm Podcast was born.

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